Life's Lessons: Moderation of Feelings

Caution, no short-sightedness, graciousness

Apr 20, 2025

“When all else fails, stand on the Word. Just stand and watch God transform the situation.” —Katherine Austin Fitts

It’s crucial to learn how to moderate feelings. Feelings are only feelings. Allow yourself to have feelings, yes, but feelings should never impede on decision making, which means no impulsiveness. Decisions need to be made using all available data and calculations about what you want long-term in the big picture.

Learn now to be appropriately cautious in a very challenging, dangerous environment with pitfalls of every description. No impulsiveness. Impulsiveness is short-sightedness, plain and simple. Look to God for guidance knowing that all of heaven is with you and wants the best for your life.

One of the biggest life’s lessons for many is learning how to be gracious no matter what. Graciousness is not a habit practiced in many places. Kindness, tactfulness make life easier for self and others. Some cultures value excellent insults instead. Step back and put it in God’s hands.

Graciousness is especially needed when having a higher status makes it easy to exert an advantage over other people. Nearly everyone has this life’s lesson to a greater or lesser degree regarding one’s relationship to power and other people. The key is to feel strong in yourself (not helpless or afraid) rooted only in God/love, while respecting the rights and limitation and deficiencies in others.

If every country learned this one lesson, world peace would be an inevitable reality now and always! Not hard at all, but very different from how people currently live.

Exercise 1: Sit in silence and let God speak to your heart, focusing on each life’s lesson. Let him soften your heart.

There’s no need to upset yourself judging others. God has already judged them. They will either learn from their mistakes and grow or end up like Korah or Achan. Their riches won’t be able to save them—all such people are on the wide road to hell together, believing they are right and this is how they are supposed to live. Such people are only there to help us grow in wisdom and love and learn how to forgive.

“…the earth opened its mouth and swallowed them and their households, and all those associated with Korah, together with their possessions.” —Numbers 16:32

When Joshua’s undefeated army was defeated at Ai, God revealed it was due to the sin of one man, Achan, who stole a beautiful cloak, 200 shekels of silver, and a bar of gold. Joshua confronted him, “‘Why did you bring trouble on us? The Lord brings trouble on you today.’ And all Israel stoned him with stones. They burned them with fire and stoned them with stones. And they raised over him a great heap of stones that remains to this day. Then the Lord turned from his burning anger.” —Joshua 7:25-26

Exercise 2: Meditation is a tool to free yourself of negative emotions. Imagine putting your negativity into a helium balloon attached with a string to your solar plexus (belly right below rib cage). Take the time to really visualize it. What color is the balloon? Is the string thin? Is it firmly attached? Then when you’re ready remove the string from your belly and your entire being. Did it loosen? If yes, let it go. Watch it float up into the sky. If not, give it more time. Ask God to remove it from you and fully accept God’s help in removing it from you.

If it resonates with you, imagine filling the space in your solar plexus with a pitcher of rose-colored liquid. Meditate on the soothing color as it fills you with peace.

Exercise 3: Trust God in everything, for everything. God can be relied upon. Trust God especially for things you have little or no control over. Cast every care upon him. Without fear, worry or hesitation, simply do what you are called to do and know that God is with you. You need fear nothing.

Exercise 4: The healing power of art. Particularly if you are so inclined, creating art can be powerful in processing emotions, communicating experiences, and connecting with others. Artistic expression can play a vital role in improving well-being and fostering resilience. Whether through music, dance, writing, clay sculpting, painting, finger painting or any other form of creativity, art heals and inspires, and helps heal and inspire audiences who enjoy it as well!